What's Standing in Your Way? You Are! - 5 Healthy Lifestyle Habits of Successful Women

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June 15, 2021 - Episode #69 - What's Standing in Your Way? You Are! - 5 Healthy Lifestyle Habits of Successful Women
You know what to do.  You really do.  You know what to do to get healthier and take control of your weight and overall health.  But there is a big difference between knowing and doing! That is where you get stuck!  Want to know why you get stuck and can’t move forward?  Are you tired of wondering what gets in the way?  I’m going to be candid here.  You are sister!!  YOU are getting in your own way!!  Want to know how I know this?  I’ve struggled with the exact same thing!! I get in my own way.  I know better, I really do.  So, since we have established that both of us struggle with the same self-sabotage, how about we chat about some effective ways to move forward?

Today, I’m laying out the 5 healthy lifestyle habits of successful women.  What does it take to be an overcomer and get out of your own way??

Now that I said the "5 healthy lifestyle habits of successful women", I understand the tendency to look  at that and automatically feel stressed, overwhelmed and start comparing yourself to others and feel inadequate.  I get it.  That is my tendency too!  But you have to realize that is self-sabotage and limiting beliefs.  Listen with an open mind and determine to get out of your own way!!  As Maya Angelou says...when you know better, you do better!

Before you go...this is TIME SENSITIVE!!  
You promised yourself you would get rid of the puffy.  That you would start exercising again, drink more water, lose the weight before the summer.  But time went by so fast, and you honestly didn’t have the time.  Or the energy.  You didn’t know where to start.  To take control of your health feels so overwhelming!! You have failed too many times before.  Do you need some help?  Need to know where to start? I have something just for you.   

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Wait, I know what you are thinking.  You are thinking in terms of extremes.  A harsh detox where you have to avoid everything, and it is virtually impossible.  This is NOT, I repeat, NOT that kind of detox! This is the basics, the absolute essentials that you need so that you understand how your body detoxes on a regular basis. 10-day detox is a lifestyle detox.  It is the essential foundation that you have to master if you want to move forward!!  Click here to learn more https://bit.ly/DetoxChallenge10

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June 15, 2021 - Episode #69 - What's Standing in Your Way? You Are! - 5 Healthy Lifestyle Habits of Successful Women

You know what to do. You really do. You know what to do to get healthier and take control of your weight. But there's a big difference in knowing and doing that is where you get stuck. Want to know why you get stuck and can't move forward?  Are you tired of wondering what gets in the way? I'm going to be candid here.. You are sister. You are getting in your own way. I want to know how I know this. I've struggled with the exact same thing I get in my own way and I know better. I really do so since we've established that both of us struggle with the same self-sabotage how about we chat about some effective ways to move forward today. I'm laying out the five healthy lifestyle habits of successful women. What does it take to be an overcomer and get out of your own way? Let’s goooo!

 It's June You promised yourself you would get rid of the policy that you would start exercising. Again, drink more water, lose the weight before summer. But time went by so fast and you honestly didn't have the time or the energy. You didn't know where to start to take control of your health feels so overwhelming. You have failed so many times before. Do you need some help? Need to know where to start? I have something just for you. Stop the chaos. A 10 day starter detox starts June 21st. It is a simple, easy approach to kickstart your body towards detoxification, hormone balance and weight loss. Wait, wait, I know where you're thinking. You're thinking in terms of extremes, right? A harsh detox where you have to avoid everything and it's virtually impossible. You're thinking, wait, I can't do that in the summer. Hold up. This is not, I repeat not that kind of detox.

This is the basics, the absolute essential that you need so that you understand how your body detoxes on a regular basis. 10 day detox is a lifestyle detox. This is not a short-term solution. Aren't you tired of that? You've tried the short term solutions before they don't work. I want to set you up for a lifetime of success. This is the basics. So this is where I share all the secrets with you. My friend, this is exactly the foundation you're looking for. It's summer. It is not time for extremes, but for the love, can we calm down the bloat while we're wearing a bathing suit over the course of 10 days, I share the secrets with you. We end pack five lifestyle habits that are the absolute foundation. It starts at June 21st and signups are going great, but girl, you gotta hurry. So you don't miss out.

Want to learn more? Just message me or check out the landing page Bitly forward slash detox, challenge 10 again, that's Bitly forward slash detox challenge. 10 of course I will always link those in the show notes so you can have 'em there, uh, as easy as you can go. Okay. Let me level with you this topic. Sometimes when I hear a topic like the one we're discussing today, the five healthy lifestyle habits of successful women. I just, it has like a lot of emotion here. So I just feel like a little jealous or overwhelmed, or I feel like, oh my God, I can never be that disciplined. Like just that statement. The five healthy lifestyle habits of successful women. Okay. It brings up a lot of emotion here. But if I take a moment and, um, and are mindful, I realize this is the self-sabotage the limiting beliefs that I could never do that.

And I'm shooting myself in the foot, frankly. I'm tired of getting in my own way. And I know you are too, so let's do this together. I want you to listen with an open mind, push aside, the limiting beliefs, determine to get out of your own way. So you can move forward. As Maya Angelou always says, once you know better, you do better.

So here we go. The top five lifestyle habits of successful women.

Number one, practice, mindfulness. It's that? Self-reflection okay. Where am I at? Am I sabotaging my own efforts? I often put it like this. Am I shooting myself in the foot? What's standing in my way. What's keeping me from making progress. This requires honesty, honesty with yourself. So I can give a great example here. That's me. I reached a point where I felt like when it came to my health, I'm like, I'm everything right?

Like I'm doing everything right. What's wrong with me? Why do I still continue to feel tired? I'm not sleeping good. Um, I don't feel happy. I'm feeling depressed. I'm feeling anxious and the weight, the weight won't budge, I'm doing everything right. But you know what? When I started to be mindful and honest with myself, I realized I wasn't doing everything right. How is doing some of the things, right? But there were other things that I was ignoring. I was ignoring my emotional health. I was hours turning to other things to numb the pain, my soul wasn't nourished, but I had to be honest with myself and I had to start practicing mindfulness and recognize my obstacles so that I could move forward. And I'm so glad that I did. So as you practice mindfulness, look at all areas of your life. One of those areas is self-talk.
What do you say when you talk to yourself? Isn't that a funny statement, but think about it. What are you saying to yourself? Is it negative? Probably. I talked to women all day. Every day. I'm a women's health coach. I don't meet many women who talk to themselves very nicely. They're saying negative things about themselves. That's what I've done before I say negative things to myself. And guess what? It's counterproductive. It doesn't work negative mind, negative body. So we've got to look at what you're saying to yourself. Here's a wonderful question. You can ask yourself what I say that to my child. That awful thing that I just said to myself, what I say that to my child.

Finally, as we're looking at mindfulness, after you've looked at self-talk look at your mindset, is it negative? Or is it positive? What's your mindset towards healthy living? What's your mindset towards self care? Um, so many times our mindset dictates everything. My mindset towards movement has gotten me in a lot of trouble. My mindset towards exercise. I don't have time for that. I don't, I don't, I don't enjoy running. Okay. You don't have to run then. So look at your mindset. Y'all this is 100% mindset. You cannot do this unless your mind is in the right place. So mindset is a huge obstacle, but  by practicing mindfulness, you can see what's standing in your way. Be honest with yourself.

Number two, minimize distraction. Well, crap, that one hits hard that when really hits hard, because I find myself more and more distracted. In fact, when I'm overwhelmed or I'm anxious, I actually seek the distraction.  I use the distraction to kind of numb the pain and it never works. Ever. Distractions only keep you from staying on track and focusing on your goals. They divert your attention away from the task at hand, and that causes you to be less productive and motivated to get things done. My distraction, my phone, social media, like it, please tell me I'm not the only one. It's such a bad habit. And it's a time-suck I'm working on it because I realize how very distracted I am, how much of my time is wasted. And then I get so discouraged about myself. So if I'm real with myself, that little bit of relaxing while scrolling my phone is having the opposite effect. After spending that time, scrolling my phone, how do I feel? Well, I'm irritable, I'm depressed. I'm jealous, I'm anxious and I'm even more overwhelmed. So if I want to be a successful woman, if I want to keep showing up for myself, I've got to minimize distraction.

You have to minimize distraction. A successful woman shows up for herself in every area of her life. And she isn't afraid to admit when distractions are getting in the way. So while I'm working on it, minimize distraction.

Number three, have a solid morning routine. Okay? I just felt you roll your eyes. I did cause you're like, this is the summer. We don't have to have a morning routine because we had a strict morning routine when we were in school and we're on vacation now. Okay? First of all, you can't go on vacation for three months. Vacation is different, but in the summer you still need a solid morning routine. If we want to adopt one of those healthy lifestyle habits of successful women, the bottom line is that morning people get more stuff done, but there's a lot of good science here to a healthy lifestyle.

So recognize first that the first 20 minutes of your day sets the tone for the rest of the day. The first 20 minutes, I just talked about my phone and what a distraction that is. Meaning. If I spend the first 20 minutes of my day on my dang phone, guess how I feel. I don't feel very good. And that sets the tone for the rest of the day. However, if I can have a morning, a solid morning routine and that that's going to look different in the summer, okay? But still having a solid morning routine. And that is focused on having my quiet time, which for me is doing a Bible study or reading a devotional, prayer, journaling, a gratitude practice, maybe saying some affirmations. This makes all the difference in the world. The first 20 minutes of your day sets the tone for the rest of your day.

How are you starting the rest of your day? Now also, if you want to sleep good at night, you've got to have a successful morning. You are setting the stage for a successful night's sleep. Isn't that crazy because it's first thing in the morning. And really you've got a lot of stuff between now and then when you go to bed, but exposing yourself to natural light, first thing in the morning really helps those circadian rhythms. And that is setting the stage for asuccessful night sleep.

Speaking of number four, prioritize sleep. Why do we fight sleep? So give the, let me give the example of sweet little babies and animals. Like when their fault, when they're sleepy, they fall asleep, right? Okay. Now we're mamas, we're working. We are busy. We have a lot of demands on us. We can't just sleep whenever we want to during the day. Right? But why do we fight it? I think we are fighting sleep. We're not prioritizing sleep because we're so focused on being productive. But I want you to recognize how counter productive it is to stay up late, to get things done.

This has nothing to do with, okay, I'm a night owl or I'm a morning person. You need sleep bottom line. You want to be productive. The next day you got to get some good sleep at night. If you want to lose weight sister, yet, if you want to detox your body, you got to get sleep. This is the secret. And by the way, if you haven't heard me talk about sleep or poop, well, you must be new here. So welcome. I talk about these things a lot. And why do you think I keep talking about the same thing all the time, sleep poop, real food, these simple strategies, but we have a hard time doing these things. Why is that? It's the basics that I've struggled with and I know better, my friend, I know better. Here's what I know. If you want to feel better and make better choices and be more productive, you got to get some sleep. This is a secret. So the next day you've had, you have energy. You're clear headed and your body is working efficiently.

Number five, be intentional. We started off number one with being mindful that self-awareness being honest with yourself. Mindfulness leads to being intentional. You're going to have to be intentional about your quiet time in the morning. You're going to have to be intentional about self-care and listening to your body and giving your body what it needs. You're going to have to be intentional about your mental and emotional health and not ignoring things, not shutting things down like your friend here has had a tendency to do. You're going to have to be intentional about personal growth. You're going to have to be intentional about family time and putting distractions away and just focusing on your family. During those moments, you'll have to be intentional about making sure your soul is nourished.
When it comes to your health journey, you're going to have to be intentional about what you eat and what you drink. A successful woman. Doesn't just constantly let life happen to her. But she intentionally sets out to make things different. It starts by being mindful and then it moves to being intentional. When we know better, we do better. That's why I love that Maya Angelou quote.

Now let me recap those number one, practice mindfulness. Number two, minimize distraction. Number three, have a solid morning routine. Number four, prioritize, sleep. Number five, be intentional. These are some of the basics. Y'all I can do these things. You can do these things, but will you, or will you continue to make excuses and get in your own way? I'm going to tell you it is time to believe in yourself. You're worth it. And you made some care.

You can do this. I'm going to tell you, you can't do it all at one time. There's no way. So that word intention. I love that because I think it's even a little bit more, I don't know. I like the way it sounds better than goals. Goals can sound kind of lofty, but set small intentions, be mindful about eating. Okay. This week, I'm going to be mindful about what I'm putting in my mouth is most of this process food, and I'm just kind of mindlessly snacking. Or am I getting in some real whole foods set an intention about your quiet time. Now when you're setting an intention or setting a small goal, um, it has to be realistic, right? So, okay. I'm going to do my quiet time. Four days this week. You don't say I'm gonna do my quiet time. Know I need to do my quiet time seven days this week. Sure you do. However, is that realistic? Okay. I'm going to make it a top priority and make sure I get my quiet time. In at least three to four days. This week being intentional makes all the difference in the world. Setting those simple, realistic goals and telling yourself as yourself. I can do this one step at a time. One simple change at a time.

If you need me, I'm here for you. Okay? I've got you. I understand. And I've been there. Okay. I'm not going to sit here and have a conversation with you and act and act like I've got it all figured out. I do not. This stuff is a struggle. And let me tell you, I know I'm not struggling alone. So if you need to connect, make sure we're connected on social media, on Facebook, on Instagram, it's at inspire healthy harmony. You can also find me under Jennifer Pickett. I've got your back. Okay? And by the way, I don't want you struggling alone. That is why I created an amazing group of women on Facebook. That Facebook group is called functional medicine for weight loss, body, mind, soul wellness for women. Y'all. This is, I just love this group. It is the most incredible group of women. And by the way, I'm posting a ton of amazing content in there just to help you.

So if you're not part of that group yet, you're missing out. I don't want you to miss out on that encouragement, that support that accountability. So you can access that by going to Bitly forward slash fem women's wellness. And again, I will put the link right here in the show notes so you can access it. And finally, before I let you go, do not forget, you heard me talk about it at the top of the podcast. Stop the chaos 10 day detox challenge. That starts June 21st. And it is exactly the reset you're looking for. So if I can answer some questions for you, be sure. And let me know. You can also learn more at Bitly forward slash detox challenge10.

I’ll be seeing you again in two weeks, June 29th. As I bring on a guest, a clinical psychologist to talk about finding fulfillment at any stage of life. Ladies, you have got to hear this. It was such a fantastic interview. I just can't wait for you to hear it. So until we meet again, get out of your own way, girl, you can do this one step at a time, one day at a time.